It seems to me that there are always a lot of unspoken rules in a relationship. People operate by those rules, but they are rarely verbalized. When you begin a new relationship, it is difficult if not impossible to know what unspoken rules the other person is operating by. Gradually, over time, you come to know some of the other person’s rules. You can adapt to them somehow when you understand them.
Keith and I seem to operate by very different and clashing rules. I think we need to get our operating rules out in the open and talk about them and perhaps negotiate NEW rules that will work better for us as a team. Assuming we weather this crisis and get back together.